LGBT+ History Month – Young People and Mental Health
LGBT+ History Month – Young People and Mental Health
February marks LGBT+ history month, and whilst this is a celebratory month that delves into the historical advancement of the LGBT+ community, a sizeable amount of the community’s history is the discrimination members have faced.
Research suggests children and young people who identify as LGBT+ have a higher risk of developing a mental health condition. This is not to say that identifying as LGBT+ causes mental health problems, rather the discrimination they face has a significant impact on their mental health.
Why is it important LGBT+ Children and Young People are validated?
University of Cambridge research for Stonewall in The School Report (2017) found that:
- Over half of LGBT young people (53 per cent) don’t feel there is an adult at school or college they can talk to about being LGBT.
- Three in five LGBT young people (60 per cent) don’t have an adult to talk to at home.
- Two in five LGBT young people (40 per cent) have never been taught anything about LGBT issues at school.
- Two-thirds of LGBT young people (66 per cent) say their school doesn’t offer help to access resources that can support them.
- One in three trans young people (33 per cent) are not able to be known by their preferred name at school, while three in five (58 per cent) are not allowed to use the toilets they feel comfortable in.
- Nearly half of LGBT young people (45 per cent) – including 64 per cent of trans young people – are bullied for being LGBT at school or college.
As a child or young person, they may be feeling overwhelmed, worried or confused, but this is normal and completely understandable. We would encourage children and young people to speak confidently to a trusted person who can support them on their journey. We should focus on the achievement this is for many young people, to finally have that conversation and to present as their authentic selves.
As a member of the LGBT+ community myself, I have noticed the relief felt when I can openly talk about my sexuality without the stigma and strange looks we expect. During my teen years, I felt seen and comfortable among my peers and not like the outcast society said I would be. I was privileged with my coming out story, however, I know many have trauma relating back to that time in their life. This is why LGBT+ History Month is so important in educating a wider audience on ways we can support and become more inclusive as society.
Written by Sophie Wrotniak.
Ways To Connect With Your Teenager
Staying connected with your teen can look very different to connecting with a younger child – they have more independence and autonomy and are often experimenting with their sense of self.
As you may be aware, the connection we have with our teenage children can be just as important as the connections we have when they are younger – providing them with a safe base and unconditional love whilst they find out who they are and who they want to be in the world is no small thing!
Below, our clinical lead for Children and Young People’s services, Rebecca Kinnear, lists her top 5 ways to connect with your teen:
Active listening can be difficult – especially if your teen is telling you something that is difficult to hear as a parent.
Active listening involves being non-judgemental, patient, empathetic and respectful. It means being quiet and not jumping in with the solutions or your opinions but holding space for what they have to say.
You may think that your teen is coming to you for an answer, but oftentimes teenagers tell us that they just want to be heard and validated.
Ask them open-ended gently curious questions to show that you are interested in what they have to say. By showing interest and wanting to know more, you show your teen that what they have to say is important to you, and interesting.
Think about the environment;
For some teens, the idea of sitting across the dining table and having a deep and meaningful conversation with intense eye contact can be daunting! Perhaps your teen finds it easier to talk in the car or when walking the dog together where eye contact is reduced and there are other things to focus your eyes on.
Create 1:1 time;
This can be particularly challenging if you have more than one child however children often share that they enjoy 1:1 time with their parent/s as they are able to talk about things that they perhaps wouldn’t if their sibling was present.
This could be just time in the car – making it fun and singing along to their songs, time after their sibling has gone to bed or whilst the sibling is at an activity – whenever you can find those pockets of time.
Show up authentically;
Being a parent can bring all the “shoulds” and “musts” such as telling yourself “I should always have the answer” or “I must fix their problems for them”.
It can be powerful to model how we manage our own emotions as adults – for example, admitting when we have acted in the heat of the moment and apologising can help you to connect with your teen by showing them respect, authenticity and modelling emotional regulation.
The key thing to remember is that teenagers may need you to persevere and be consistent, showing them that you will be there, no matter what.
This can be tiring as a parent, so remember to look after yourself too!
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